Your lifestyle is your lifestyle. I really don’t give a shit what you do with yourself, and I would hope you would extend the same courtesy to me.
But I just don’t understand polyamory. Well, no, that’s inaccurate. I actually totally understand polyamory. What I don’t understand is the way it’s practiced by the people I know who claim to practice it. It’s like communism: brilliant and perfect, but totally not taking into account the basic tenets of human nature.
I am in a serious relationship. It’s been a bunch of years and we live together. And we love each other.
Why would I want to be with another man when I have him? And, more pointedly, how could I stand the thought of him being with another woman? (Or man, or whatever. Gender politics is not the issue here.)
I applaud those secure enough to share their lovers, but I honestly can’t understand it. Why bother to remain in a committed relationship then? Why not just date around? To me, there are basically two reasons: (1) to show how different and interesting and daring you are (when usually, in my experience, the opposite is true), or (2) to hang on desperately to someone who doesn’t fulfill you just in case you can never find anyone else, for security purposes.
Am I wrong? Love me, hate me, I don’t care. Just explain to me. For true.
